外头的雨稀里哗啦打下来，我裹在厚厚的棉被里，在床上翻来覆去。
往事一幕幕浮现在脑海，这些年来，少了趾高气扬、少了飞扬跋扈；反而多了一些优柔寡断、多了不确定。
你一定有试过问上帝一些问题，然后得不到祂的答案，对吧？别担心，我也常这样。这不是因为上帝不爱我们，或是懒得理我们；大概是祂太爱我们，所以选择给我们自主权，让我们勇敢地去为自己的生命作决定。“别害怕做选择，反正结果没有对和错，选了就是了，上帝会祝福我们的。” 我的确是这么认为的。
但我想，我偶尔还是害怕做抉择的。
新春佳节，拜访了很多很想念的人；可是还有很多人，没机会见上一面。因为时间有限、因为青春有限，也因为大家都有各自的生活理想和目标要追逐。所以要取舍，所以要牺牲。
所以回到同一个问题：要选择什么？牺牲什么？
（以下是我很敬重的一位领袖在面子书写的状态，非常具影响力的一段文字。仔细阅读，答案就在其中。）
These past few days of Chinese New Year
reunion and visitations have been wonderful. Hearing some stories of how
people face criticism about their jobs and stuff from their families
makes me give thanks that I don't have a family that does that. Even my
extended relatives don't do that.
If we talked about a house, a car, a wedding, a marriage or a job, I never felt that it was for measuring or comparing who's one has a better one or who has better "success". I never felt like anyone was treating reunions as a time of checking who is ahead in the "competition" of life. It's always nice and relaxing fun times when it comes to spending time with my relatives.
Some may feel that I have a perfect big family. Far from it. We have our fare share of differences and drama. Some didn't even have a perfect family or upbringing of a mother and father (like my mum). We have our problems in relationship and communication as well. I'm sure all of us (my family and relatives) would say that we suck in one way or another.
It's who we choose to be to one another that makes us a good family not what we have or the amount of money in each packet of 'ang pao' we give or get.
We always get to choose what kind of father we want to be, what kind of mother we want to be, what kind of son or daughter we want to be, what kind of uncle we want to be, what kind of auntie we want to be, what kind of niece or nephew we want to be, what kind of cousin we want to be. We choose what kind of family we want to build and what kind of person we want others to remember us as.
If we talked about a house, a car, a wedding, a marriage or a job, I never felt that it was for measuring or comparing who's one has a better one or who has better "success". I never felt like anyone was treating reunions as a time of checking who is ahead in the "competition" of life. It's always nice and relaxing fun times when it comes to spending time with my relatives.
Some may feel that I have a perfect big family. Far from it. We have our fare share of differences and drama. Some didn't even have a perfect family or upbringing of a mother and father (like my mum). We have our problems in relationship and communication as well. I'm sure all of us (my family and relatives) would say that we suck in one way or another.
It's who we choose to be to one another that makes us a good family not what we have or the amount of money in each packet of 'ang pao' we give or get.
We always get to choose what kind of father we want to be, what kind of mother we want to be, what kind of son or daughter we want to be, what kind of uncle we want to be, what kind of auntie we want to be, what kind of niece or nephew we want to be, what kind of cousin we want to be. We choose what kind of family we want to build and what kind of person we want others to remember us as.
We always have a choice.
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Yeah, true that.
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